Here's a topic that doesn't receive much attention: People with disabilities and sex. I would like to list some common myths and stereotypes concerning people with disabilities and sexuality issues. People with disabilities are asexual. People with disabilities are dependent and childlike, so they need to be protected.
Disability breeds disability. People with disabilities should stay with and marry their own kind. If a person with a disability has a sexual problem,it's almost always the result of the disability. If a person with a disability has a sexual relationship with another person with a disability, it's because he or she can't attract anyone else. These myths can decrease the sexual expression of people with disabilities.
(Chipouras et al,1979), I'd like to discuss some of these myths in more detail. First of all, I'd like to say we are sexual beings, and when a person with a disability gets married and decides to have a child, it doesn't necessarily mean the child will be born with a disability. The best thing to do before deciding to have a baby is talk to your physician about the chances of your baby being born with a disability. If a person with a disability is having some problems functioning sexually, it could be due to stress, low self-esteem, bad memories of past history, or lack of interest. Since people with disabilities are physically affected in different ways, we might not all be able to have total feeling of all our body parts.
We can hopefully still have some sexual enjoyment with a partner of choice. Although some people have limited physical feeling, they might still like to have that part and others touched because it gives them a feeling of being human. Some people might need more hands-on help when getting ready to engage in sexual activity, but his does not change the fact that they also have sexual needs and desires. Having a disability does not and should not, unless by choice, prevent a person from having sexual feelings or needs, and desires met. We can at least dream and fantasize about them, if nothing else.
We might not be able to participate in certain sexual activities without a lot of problems, or not at all. But i'm sure we can all get some satisfaction from your partner. Not all people with disabilities engage in heterosexual relationships. This decision and others just as personal about sex are best made on the basis of individual values and beliefs. The following is a sexual bill of rights for people with disabilities ( Chipouras et al, 1979)
The right to sexual expression. The right to privacy. The right to be informed. The right to have access to needed services, such as contraceptive counseling, medical care, genetic counseling and sex counseling.The right to choose one's matrimonial status.
The right to have or not have children. The right to make decisions that affect one's life. The right to develop to one's full potential. I have a female friend that has a physical disability, and she is happily married to a wonderful man, and the have two beautiful daughters. I also have a male friend that has a physical disability and he is happily married to a wonderful man.